No is Killing your Baby

Would you feed your baby something that would damage thier cells? Would you put your child in an environment that you know was harmful to them?

Have you ever said no to an infant?

Why you should not say NO to your Baby!

No is a decision - Stop is an action! Let me explain.

Now let me first start of by saying I am a father of a 5 year old boy. So I am qualified to have a conversation on this, you may disagree, that's okay, I hope you give me the chance to explain.

I am a motivational/inspirational speaker, I have been blessed to have this talent and even more blessed to be able to use this talent around the world. As I have traveled across the United States, Canada, Mexico and all across Europe, I have heard babies and infants being told NO in many, many languages.

It is a habit that causes such stress it's hard to explain, I will do my best here.

How do you feel when you are told "No"? Do you like to tell others "No"? This little word reeks havoc on our lives and we don't even realize it.

There are many scientific studies that prove that we are a result of our thoughts and that thoughts can control how healthy we are, how we act in a certain situation and even how long we live. So what does that have to do with telling a child no?

Think about the word no for just a moment. When you are compelled to say the word no, think about what is happening at that particular moment. The word no is in response to an "action" someone is either doing, or asking you to do. Does that make sense?

Okay, so let's look at that for just a moment. Someone asked you to do something, or you asked someone else to do something, and it was decided, let me repeat, it was decided NOT to do it. See the word No is in response to a decision not so much an action.

When I tell my son Mason "No" now, I do it in response to a decision he either wants' to make, is making or has made. "Daddy can I have a soda"? "No Mason not right now".

When he was younger and was not aware of the decisions he was making I used the word STOP. See here is where, in my opinion, a huge change can happen for parents. When a baby is walking towards a set of steps, or near the oven, or about to tip over a glass of juice onto the carpet, it would be better if you said 'stop', and not no.

By saying stop you are teaching them to halt an action they are making and not conditioning them to cease from making decisions! I hope I am able to explain this in a way that makes sense.

I'm not a psychologist, I'm just a Dad who wants to bring value to other parents, and share my life experiences.

If you are telling your child, who may not be fully aware of the decisions they are making, but fully aware of the actions they are taking, if you are telling them 'No', it's an opinion that they begin to doubt their decisions as they grow older.

Try it, next time your youngster begins to do something they should Stop doing, say that and don't say No. You want them to take chances, to make choices, to do new things. Do what you really want to do by protecting them and have them stop what they are doing, and watch what happens.